One of the most common, but unhelpful, thinking patterns is self doubt.
When things go wrong, or don’t go to plan, it is so easy for us to look within ourselves as the first point of blame.
Once we get stuck in that cycle, it can be harmful and upsetting. And we can become fearful of putting ourselves out there again.
If you recognise that self blame is something that you notice in your own thought patterns, try asking some reflective questions:
Is what’s happened within my control?
What did I do, or not do, that affected this outcome?
What could I do differently next time?
Do I need some help or practice in order for me to do that?
Learn to coach yourself
Any good coach would take you through this process of reflective learning, in order to help you grow and develop.
By being able to practice this kind of reflection on yourself, you can take back control over how you react, and how you will act in future.
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