Planning and preparation can help us to anticipate problems, and give us the chance to make adjustments if we see something on the horizon which could be a problem.
But we can also become too distracted or focused on the ‘what ifs’…and end up creating new problems for ourselves.
Trying to find that balance can be hard. We want to do our best and avoid any pitfalls, but in doing so, we lose sight of the here and now. Maybe we appear distracted or not interested in what is going on around us. Or we freeze and can’t take action, because we’ve built up all of these scenarios of failure in our minds.
Try and notice how much time you spend on the ‘what if’ scenarios…and whether you’re thinking too much about what ‘might’ happen, rather than what ‘is’ happening.
Being able to recognise these thought patterns is the first and most important step.
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No one is born an expert. Not even this guy!
One of the biggest buzz-kills to motivation is the false belief that we have to be brilliant at something. It’s as if we can’t fail, otherwise “what’s the point?”.
If you recognise that you have high expectations of yourself whenever you attempt something new, you might have had these thoughts before too.
Putting so much pressure on ourselves from the outset can be a barrier for attempting to learn new skills or put ourselves out there. We fear looking like a novice or beginner, or worry that other people might notice our weaknesses.
We all want to feel successful at new things, especially if we put time and effort into something.
But if we’re willing to accept being a learner for a while, it can really help when we feel rewarded for our hard work by noticing our improvements and progress. These incremental gains can help to build motivation and give us the incentive to keep going.
Go on, dare to try something new…and be willing to learn along the way!
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How do you view motivation? Is it all or nothing? Either all ‘go’ or all ‘no’. It can be helpful to remember, motivation isn’t like a light switch.
We can easily talk ourselves out of things when we feel less motivated, and the more we do it, the more difficult it can be to overcome it.
If you can think back to a time where you’ve struggled to get motivated with something, can you remember how you felt about yourself? I’m guessing it was pretty negatively.
We can start to blame ourselves for things going wrong and the more we avoid situations or taking action, then we are at risk of starting to see ourselves as a failure. This type of thinking gets us believing that motivation is something we either have or don’t have. And if we don’t have it in that moment, we blame ourselves.
In reality, there are a lot of different factors that impact on our motivation, and it’s normal to feel more or less motivated at different times. Even when it’s something important or enjoyable.
So if you notice that your motivation is a little unpredictable, go easy on yourself.
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