So far in this month of March Mindset Matters, we’ve looked at the most commonly known traits of the fixed or growth mindset. Maybe you have recognised where you tend to naturally sit within these. But are there any other alternatives? And can we benefit from having a neutral mindset?
When it comes to our personal growth, we know that our mindset can have a huge effect on how we approach life. And we know that having a growth mindset, and actively seeking out new experiences can help us to keep learning.
We’ve also seen how having a fixed mindset can be detrimental to our personal development, and how it can hold us back. But if we are ‘go go go’ all the time in a growth mindset phase, we may be missing out on the most important bit. And that is ‘learning’.
I would suggest that sometimes it can be helpful to slip into neutral and do nothing. To wait and see. Or at least assimilate what we have learned. Can we really benefit from having a neutral mindset?
In order for us to grow and develop, we need to try new things, or take on new experiences or challenges. Sometimes we’ll be successful and sometimes we won’t, but either way the experience will have taught us some key things. What went well, what didn’t go so well, what would I repeat next time, what would I do differently next time. And in order to assimilate and understand, we need a period of rest and reflection, so that learning can then ‘bed in’.
Likewise, if we are full steam ahead on a particular goal or target, we need to pause along the way and check in with our progress. This helps us recognise how far we’ve come (along with ‘what’s working/what isn’t’) but also to check that where we are heading is still in the right direction.
We need to assess whether what we are doing is going to get us to where we want to be. Or maybe where we want to be has changed.
How can a neutral mindset help me?
A journey of personal growth might just open up new goals that we hadn’t previously thought possible. And as we prove to ourselves what we are capable of, and we develop new skills, we build the confidence to think bigger.
Time for self reflection is crucial to allowing this process to happen. And of course, we need rest to recharge our batteries.
But what if I feel guilty for taking a rest
The idea of rest is a tricky one for some people. If you’re used to being on the go, slowing down or coming to a halt, can feel as though you’re missing out. Or worse, being lazy. But this is far from it.
Our bodies, and especially our minds, need rest to make sense of what’s going on and to regenerate, so if you’re finding it difficult to allow yourself permission, try reframing it as a period of review or reflection instead, to consolidate your learning!
So if you’re on a journey of growth and you’re feeling a little jaded or foggy about where you’re going next, try slipping into neutral for a while.
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