Going through any kind of change can be tough, even when we feel fairly confident. So having a cheerleading squad of people around us can really help. But what happens when those closest to us aren’t cheering?
We should feel supported by those who are closest to us, right?
Sometimes the people who are the most unhelpful are the very people that you would think should be there for you. Whether this is your partner, friends or family, it can really hurt when you feel like you’re having to deal with unsupportive, or even sabotaging, loved ones. Sometimes people don’t share your enthusiasm or vision, or for whatever reason they may feel threatened or worried that what you are gaining from achieving your goals, might take you away from them. Or maybe it highlights an area in their own life where they feel inadequate or insecure, and they could be jealous that you are doing something about it.
I love to see Instagram stories where people are sharing their big and little wins, and it’s also great to see the support that people (often random strangers) give each other. So it’s sad when you read that people are talking about it on their page because they don’t feel they are getting that support from their loved ones, or they’ve lost friends who are jealous of their achievements or new found confidence.
Realising that not everyone has your best interests at heart is a tough lesson to learn, but you have to keep going to reach your own achievements. Even if it means doing it alone, or finding support in another form – go find your cheerleaders!
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