Connecting with other people is great. That buzz when you feel part of something is often what keeps us going. Meeting people to bounce ideas off, and people that believe in you more than you do yourself.
But sometimes the people we’re surrounded with don’t see things the way we do. And also, some people are just hard work, aren’t they? When it comes to our closest relationships, quality definitely comes before quantity. The most outgoing person in the world can have a list as long as your arm of contacts, followers, Facebook friends…but how many of those individuals do they truly connect to? Longevity doesn’t equate to quality either when it comes to friendships – being surrounded by lots of people doesn’t necessarily lead to real connections, or support.
Sometimes we need to make peace with knowing that people aren’t who we want them to be, and that they can’t (or won’t) be able to give us the support we need.
The best people to be surrounded by are those that truly get who we are, and what we are trying to achieve in life. And they don’t just let us get on with it without judgement, they want to help us to get there. And likewise, we are there for them too. That’s how it works.
And the best coaches don’t just teach skill or technique, they have a passion for whatever they teach, and that’s contagious. Even if we feel that we are independent, we still rely on good energy and positivity from others.
Do the people around you beam out good energy, or do they drain you?
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